Strong Women

It has begun to bother me how “strong women” are portrayed in TV and movies. It seems that strength and masculinity are too often confused with each other in our culture. The “strong women” in TV shows are not necessarily strong, they are just masculine. That is they write off any feminent qualities and just act like male power fantasy characters like Rambo. They never have any emotions, they engage in gratuitous violence, and their sexuality is repressed. Now, I agree with second wave feminism on these sorts of issues. In my opinion there are genuine differences between the genders. Maybe that’s incorrect, my point is largely independent of that. My point is that the idea that gender equality is only achieved through both genders acting, thinking, and being treated exactly the same is dangerous. It’s dangerous because when we homogenize the genders and force their cultures to come to some middle ground, the male narrative always seems to win out. Attempts at gender equality are too often just male assimilation of female culture. Like I was saying in response to: http://www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/is-being-called-a-girl-an-insult
we need to think about why “throwing like a girl” is an insult. The problem with our culture is that our answer to these sorts of slurs is just making girls better at throwing balls. I don’t think girls are inherently weaker than boys or worse at sports. I think a lot of women are just not interested in sports. I think we could glean a lesson here and ask why the fuck is it important to be good at throwing balls very far. Why do we value a human being based upon how far they can throw a ball? The American culture answer to this is to have a badass action girl come in and hit a home run to show the boys how its done. Yeah, duh girls could be good at baseball if they wanted to, but why should they? Maybe female culture is on to something here. Maybe instead of using our time to practice throwing a ball and hitting a ball we could do something else. Maybe instead of idolizing good athletes we could pay attention to scientists who cure deadly diseases. Maybe we should seek to idolize and strive for other aspects human development. Maybe developing emotional strength is more valuable than honing physical strength. “Fighting like a girl” is one of the most telling slurs. We live in a culture where you are valued by how well you can hurt another human being. When someone says “you fight like a girl” Hollywood’s answer is to have badass action girl come in and beat up a warehouse full of musclebound dudes. Yes, again, duh women can be just as good at fighting as men. The point is why is a proclivity and skill at violence a positive cultural norm? I think instead of just saying “Hey look, women are just as good at being men as men are!” we should actually attempt to understand and respect feminine values. Even if we could make male and female cultures converge without simply having the male narrative dominate, I’m not sure it would be a good thing. I think a tremendous amount can be learned from different cultures and life is more worth living if we have cultures in which we are free to be ourselves.

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2 thoughts on “Strong Women

  1. I totally agree. This also goes for when “meninists” say “well if we are equal, then why can’t I hit you?” The answer is that it’s not right to hit people, and that equality shouldn’t be based on whether or not you can hit someone.

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    1. lol. yeah, equality probably shouldn’t be based on whether you can physically hurt other people the best. Yeah that kind of mentality kind of made me gravitate away from the masculine bro culture. People are always confused when I denounce aspects of male culture and am myself male. Male culture has clearly been hijacked by rappers, talking heads, and various degenerates, sort of how Jesse Jackson and radical feminists hijack their respective cultures. People are further baffled by the fact that I am a man but am interested in gender theory, or the female experience. The modern discourse on gender has become so fucking toxic. People perceive feminism as anti-male rather than an exploration of the female experience. On the other hand people are freaked out and offended when men talk about sex or gender and the idea of a male feminist is seen as absurd. I am not an electron and yet I study them professionally. It’s OK to be interested in something that is not you or part of given categories you fall into.

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